Mid-morning. Today is
the birthday of your oldest friend who is a girl, Sandy H..J. You first met in
the third/ fourth grade at Minerva Park School. You were friends through high
school then went separate ways, met again at your fiftieth high school reunion.
She is one of those friends never forgotten in your heart. You wish her well as
always. – Amorella
Afternoon. You sent a birthday note/poem
to Sandy and received a pleasant reply – tea or lunch the next time she is in
Westerville. – Amorella
1317 hours. This satisfies my heart and mind
and perhaps my soul as well, who knows.
Interesting
phraseology, boy. In situations like this (and they happen to most everyone) it
is the soul that is first satisfied (look for a better, more specific and
complete word). From the soul the reverberation inward is to mind and heart
equally but the heart ‘senses/feels’ it before the mind comprehends the
situation. – Amorella
1323 hours. This is a surprise. Why the soul
first?
You
are soulmates. (Needs defining in context.) – Amorella
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soul mate (also soulmate) – noun
a person
ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner.
Selected
from Oxford/American software
And from
online:
As
the American writer Richard Bach said, “A soulmate is someone who has locks
that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open
the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who
we are.”
Ah,
soulmates. The epitome of love and partnership. In our fast-paced chaotic
world, which boasts all sorts of different people, we find ourselves skimming
through more relationships than we’d like in order to find that one person who
can truly open our locks.
Not
just anyone can fulfill you the way your soulmate can. There’s a world of a
difference between your soulmate, your heart’s other half and a life partner —
a person who lacks the elements to mold perfectly to you. Your soulmate makes
you feel entirely whole, healed and intact, like no piece is missing from the
puzzle. A life partner, on the other hand, can be a great supporter and
long-time companion, but is limited in his or her capacity to enrich your
spirit.
Most
of us remain in life-partner relationships because we “settle,” for a multitude
of reasons. Firstly, we may have a real subconscious fear of being alone. And
since we’re biologically designed to fall in love, it’s only natural that we
pair up in this world. But we sometimes prolong what are meant to be temporary
relationships and mistakenly settle into them for good. There are relationships
which must last for a certain period of time to close out a karmic chapter of
life, relationships in which we’re meant to have children with our partner but
not necessarily remain with them, and relationships which are just plain
confusing because a melting pot of emotions doesn’t allow us to see our
predestined path.
I’ve
seen it all in my practice as a psychologist, from couples who married their
childhood loves to people in their retirement years who still struggle with
commitment issues. Most of us fall somewhere between these two extremes,
meaning that we experienced several relationships before finding the person we
believe to be our perfect pairing. Whether you’re currently married, in a
relationship, or contemplating entering a relationship with a new love
interest, it is crucial that you know what role this person will play in your
life. After all, there’s no avoiding the inevitable, often uncomfortable
question we must ask ourselves: Is this the person I was bound by destiny to
share my life with? Or did I settle too quickly into a relationship with
someone who can never complete me?
No
matter the category you fit into to, there are several indications which
clearly outline a soulmate bond (or a lack of bond) between you and your
partner. As you go through this list, think about your partner or potential
partner and evaluate whether they meet the soulmate criteria.
The 10 Elements of a Soulmate:
1. It’s something inside. Describing how a
soulmate makes you feel is difficult. It’s a tenacious, profound and lingering
emotion which no words can encompass.
2. Flashbacks. If your partner is your soulmate, chances are
he or she has been present in your past lives. Soulmates often choose to come
back together during the same lifetime and scope each other out in the big
world. You might suddenly and briefly experience flashbacks of your soulmate.
You might even feel an odd sense of déjà vu, as if the moment in time has
already taken place, perhaps a long time ago, perhaps in a different setting.
3. You just get each other. Ever met two people who finish each
other’s sentences? Some people call that spending too much time together, but I
call it a soulmate connection. You might experience this with your best friend
or your mother, but it is the telltale sign of a soulmate when you experience
it with your partner.
4. You fall in love with his (or her) flaws. No relationship is
perfect, and even soulmate relationships will experience ups and downs. Still,
that bond will be much harder to break. Soulmates have an easier time of
accepting, even learning to love, each other’s imperfections. Your relationship
is more likely to be a soulmate match if you both love each other exactly as you
each are, accepting both the great and awful tendencies we all have.
5. It’s intense. A soulmate relationship may be more intense
than normal relationships, in both good and sometimes bad ways. The most
important thing is that, even during negative episodes, you’re focused on
resolving the problem and can see beyond the bad moment.
6. You two against the world. Soulmates often see their relationship
as “us against the world.” They feel so linked together that they’re ready and
willing to take on any feat of life, so long as they have their soulmate by
their side. Soulmate relationships are founded on compromise and unity above
all else.
7. You’re mentally inseparable. Soulmates often have
a mental connection similar to twins. They might pick up the phone to call each
other at the exact same time. Though life may keep you apart at times, your
minds will always be in tune if you are soulmates.
8. You feel secure and protected. Regardless of the
gender of your partner, he or she should always make you feel secure and
protected. This means that if you’re a man, yes, your woman should make you
feel protected, too! Your soulmate will make you feel like you have a guardian
angel by your side. A person who plays on your insecurities, whether
consciously or subconsciously, is not your soulmate.
9. You can’t imagine your life without him (or her). A soulmate is not
someone you can walk away from that easily. It is someone you can’t imagine
being without, a person you believe is worth sticking with and fighting for.
10. You look each other in the eye. Soulmates have a
tendency to look into each other’s eyes when speaking more often than ordinary
couples. It comes naturally from the deep-seated connection between them.
Looking a person in the eye when speaking denotes a high level of comfort and
confidence.
Whether
you’re designed by the universe to be soulmates or two loving people who have
settled for each other’s strengths and weaknesses, the decision is yours. The
beauty of free will is that you can remain in or change any relationship as you
see fit. To be with your soulmate is one of the precious treasures of life. And
if you feel you’ve found your heart’s other half, I wish you endless days of
joy and laughter, and countless nights of deep embrace, unraveling the
mysteries of the universe one by one.
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and edited from -- http://www.huffingtonpostdotcom/dr-carmen-harra/elements-of-a-soulmate_b_3595992.html
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1341 hours. Some definitions are too
broad and others are too specific. To me, the two above represent the range and
are not what I think a soulmate to be in context to my very few friends that I
would say are soulmates. Wife, Carol, is also a soulmate and so is daughter for
that matter. Male soulmates – Bob, Fritz, Steve and Doug. I don’t think
sexuality plays into it. The mutual attraction is not physical, that’s the
point. It’s not about romance, it is about intimate (unconscious familiarity)
friendship.
Post.
– Amorella
1352 hours. – Do you agree?
With
the question you were interrupted by Toyota saying your new key FOB was ready
as well as the bill. You paid and just arrived home a short time ago. Now, you
are going out to a late lunch. – Amorella
1505 hours. – Do you agree?
I
will explain later today. We do not think on the same wavelength, boy; not that
there is anything wrong with it. Post. – Amorella
Post. - Amorella
The spiritual is not
alien, the physical is. That’s a point to think on in this blog’s greater context.
Post. - Amorella
You had salads at Piada Street Italian
with a Graeter’s for dessert, a stop at Lowe’s for an electric timer for the
bedroom light and now at Kroger’s all on Mason-Montgomery Road. Carol is going
to give you a hundred dollars for Christmas and you said you would use it
towards either a new Fitbit or an Apple sports watch. You will get her a
hundred dollar card at Barnes and Noble. Tokens. – Amorella
1645 hours. We would rather save for
something important that we need than spend it on Christmas. This was an invention
when we had no spare money during the decades of the sixties, seventies,
eighties and nineties. Things got better when we paid off the house and we gave
Kim her college education, a bit on graduate school and on part of her new
Civic in 2001. About the same time we had no more debt and still don’t. All
those decades but it was worth it to us. Most of the time the debt was for two
cars (usually one at a time when we were both working) and a house payment. Credit
cards paid off every month for decades. Peace of mind, you earn it paying off
debt. I’m done.
No
pride in this, boy. It’s what you and Carol do. – Amorella
1654 hours. I thought I was getting carried
away – I ‘felt’ freer while thinking about being free of debt.
Nothing’s
free in the physical world nor in the spiritual either as you have surmised. Contact
with a plausible soulmate has a sense of destiny to it but that is in the eyes
of the soulmates. Opinion, really. Accidental meeting sounds less romantic but
this is how you see your soulmates both male and female. Why, you are an
existentialist. You think you have met your soulmates before, in another
physical or spiritual life, Amorella
1733 hours. We are home, unpacked and in
changed clothes. I do (until now secretly) feel I have met some people before
on another physical or spiritual level. No doubt (as I’ve stated before
somewhere) because Mother was a believer in past lives at one time and that
people did ‘know’ people or souls from another life – The Search for Bridey
Murphy (January 1, 1956) by Morey Bernstein is an example. Mom had the book
by summer; I was ready to begin my Freshman year in the fall. I remember I was
already interested in the supernatural, mostly because of joining the church
when I was twelve. Dad was openly an agnostic if not atheist because he said he
didn’t believe a word of it. Mom was upset with him (she was a strong believer
in Predestination too) saying agnostic statements but he didn’t go to church and neither did Mom
much. (If Mom didn’t go much except Easter and
Christmas why/how was she much of a believer). My grandparents never said much
about religion and only Popo (Clell) Orndorff went regularly. He would go to
church as well as Sunday School classes at the Evangelical United Brethren
Church just off Otterbein College campus at Main and Grove Streets in
Westerville. Kim and her cousin Sharon were baptized there when they were about
one. I went with Popo (to keep him company) sometimes even in college. He never
said much about the EUB joining the Methodists in 1968 or 69. I always thought
it was odd. What I liked about going to church with him is that they sang a
good majority of their hymns (particularly at Christmas and Easter) in German. Obviously,
the Presbyterians never did that.
Take
a break, orndorff. You are rattling on in your head. – Amorella
1805 hours. I got caught remembering stuff
and it came out in my fingertips ironically enough, unthinkingly.
Evening.
You watched NBC News, “Designated Survivor” several intros to “Saturday Night
Live” and a “Modern Family” and having your snack supper early, during the
news. Back to soul mates – you think the focus on one’s soulmate(s) is
basically a connection of ‘intimate unconsciousness’? – Amorella
2121 hours. I do. As such it comes from the
heartanmind first because it is before a conscious connection. This makes it
appear mysterious and romantic but I think it is simpler than that. In context
with the blog I would say it is ‘souls’ remembering something good about one
another before physical time and during a spiritual time. (2126)
This
is where I say we are on different wavelength, so to speak. Our relationship
began with an introduction. We had not met before. How is this that I a phenomenon
of the spiritual world had not met you? What does this tell you about the
spiritual world? – Amorella
2129 hours. It suggests there is a
consciousness of the soul, that through accident or free will, souls can choose
with whom the can communicate.
But
I am not a soul; I am a spiritual Betweener. – Amorella
2133 hours. Theoretically, I would say my
soul has its own ‘spiritual consciousness’ and that a Betweener also has a
spiritual consciousness and we had never met. This is bothersome because
accident or free will or fate play a part neither you can know or that
individual souls carrying a heart and mind can know. -- It all sounds rather
complicated. You, as a Betweener, aside; the point is that souls have an
individual sense of consciousness before they are completed by an individual
human heart and mind at least in theory within context of this blog.
This
concept does not have to be that complicated. Here is an analogy to serve as a
purpose of understanding. Think of a soul growing like a tree; it develops
rings as it grows but each ring of interior growth shows the presence not of
time but of a heartanmind absorbed into the soul. Each tree soul is root
connected to others that also developed ‘rings’ of growth (witness, as it were,
of one heartanmind after another). Each individual human heartanmind is attached
either in branches and/or roots as human genetics flower and evolve. Along the
way connections reflect through inevitable human settings and conditions.
Similarities are seen are recognized every so often. To humans this is as soul-mating;
to souls this is as evolving lines within souls. – Amorella
2152 hours. I may be confusing your
communication or perhaps just my own inner communication Amorella. Are you
saying a soul may take more than one heartanmind but that this ‘shell layer’ is
followed by another shell layer of heartanmind more in the sense of different
rock layers found in geology?
Keeping
this within a simple understanding, yes, there are other similarities in
nature. Spiritual nature may also reflect some of these but with a different
intent and purpose. Spiritual growth is not physical growth. For instance survival
is not a part of the equation. Souls don’t have to adapt, hearts and minds do.
Capisci? – Amorella
2206 hours. Does this mean the heartanmind
that each soul takes to protect (from physical properties) is layered on a
series of other shell plates, so to speak, so the soul one’s heartanmind
attaches to is not just the soul itself but the imperfect heartanmind of a
previously imperfect human being. That it may be a long or thick distance to
the actual ‘immortal’ part of the outer soul.
You
go too far, boy. Even if matters are such in an analogy or so, there is no
distance between any heartanmind with the inner/outer ‘shell/shellessness’ of
the soul and the heartanmind. Space and time do not exist inside or out as far
as souls are concerned. Survival and adaptation for survival have no bearing on
souls or Betweeners in here, young man. – Amorella
2218 hours. “In my father’s house there are
many mansions,” comes to mind; perhaps it does not work in this context but it
shows I am grasping for something less alien.
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